Table 2 Quotations matching the themes and sub-themes regarding the practical aspects, feelings, and thoughts

Instructions

Clear

Useful

Exercising

M: ‘Yes, those (instructions) were pretty clear. Yes, with that (checklist), you really got [it].’ (int.8)

F:’I learned … I saw how we had to record this film. So that was also useful.’ (int. 1)

M: ‘Sometimes we didn't know whether he could perhaps do certain things … or whether not. We thought, oh, perhaps that might be fun to offer [that activity] to him now. More like that. Because that’s what we’re going to do.’ (int. 5)

Time planning

Recording on one day

Two persons

Undressing

The right state

Becomes more easy

Own environment

M: ‘You want [to do] it in just one day, of course, and that doesn’t always work.’ (int. 3)

F: ‘Well, the limitation was that both of us had to film it.’ (int. 2)

M: ‘And filming that while standing, yes, I always need someone for that. And at a hectic pace, it does not always work smoothly.’ (int. 4)

M: ‘And you have to change his clothes a few times and I did not find that pleasant. He was actually tired by the time I had undressed him.’ (int. 5)

M: ‘Yes, I usually plan it in my calendar. Then I think, oh, it is a day when we are both there, hey, on the weekend. But then he is just sleeping or then he has just been sick, [and] then the moment has passed.’ (int. 3)

M: ‘It became shorter and shorter, I think, because he could actually do more [each time] and it was getting easier.’ (int. 10)

M: ‘That you don’t again … because you are in the hospital quite a lot. I think that I would not have joined if I had to go somewhere [to take part]. I wanted to participate, because it could just be at home.’ (int. 4)

Recording home-video

Fun

Similar to normal playing

Awareness MD

M: ‘I actually found it very nice to do.’ (int. 2)

M: ‘You actually film what you already do with him every day.’ (int. 4)

F: ‘It’s nice that you see those different videos, that [motor] development. Then you are much more aware, I think. Otherwise you are not so aware of it day to day.’ (int. 5)

Uploading

Time-consuming

M: ‘It really takes one or two hours (with transferring and uploading). So that is tough.’ (int. 3)

Feedback

Frame of reference

M: ‘Especially with regard to how he is developing compared to other children of his age, corrected and not corrected [for his prematurity]. That's actually what I like most about it. And that you sort of look at how is he on the curve, is he going this way or that way. But above all, does it fall within the normal [range]?’ (int. 3)

Context

Need for information

Uncertain

Reassurance

Ambivalence

Confidence

Confirmation

M: ‘And then I notice that I think, hmm, is that the way it should be? Or should he actually be able to [do that]? Or what is in it?’ (int. 7)

M: ‘But sometimes I find that difficult, because I don’t… because I sometimes get insecure, because they are born too early.’ (int. 7)

F: ‘What else can go wrong, that was the hardest, I think. That matters a lot, in that it is nice to see again … that we get confirmation that it's going well, orally, on paper and on screen.’ (int. 9)

M: ‘I am very confident that I want my children, I want to stimulate them in their development, if that is necessary, but I also want them to actually do their own thing. Should I encourage them more because it's good for them, or should I let them do it themselves?’ (int. 7)

M: ‘He [was] just born too early. …so [there’s] no reason why he shouldn’t reach his milestones.’ (int. 3)

M: ‘It is a kind of confirmation of what you actually feel yourself.’ (int. 6)